Reach!

Reach!

After two surgeries and a reconstruction on one breast your range of motion in your arm shrinks down considerably. Basically, what I am saying, is that to all of you that struggle with supermans and wall rolls, I feel your pain. Couple that with the pain of regenerating nerves, numbness in the oddest spots and the whole emotional roller coaster of being healthy your whole adult life and STILL getting breast cancer and you have an excellent recipe for depression. Which is what I was feeling all day yesterday. Of course each time I looked to the TV or social for distraction, there were stories of yet again, another mindless, hate filled tragedy and a message from someone telling me how much they miss my positive attitude in their life. Not how am I doing, but when can I get back to helping them, ummmm the minute I am done focusing on my own health, which is priority 1 in my life.

So, the depression deepened. You know the feeling, you are at the bottom of your ditch and it feels as though the sides have been greased and someone is shooting a fire hose down at you to keep you down. That was me. Yesterday.

In instances like this, you can work to flip your pyramid, or grab the noise maker, the spoon for ice cream and fully embrace the party of pity for one that you have invited yourself to. And that is mostly what I did yesterday. Not completely, because I do have the great support of my amazing husband who said in the afternoon, heh, let's go for a walk. Which, as you all know, instantly gave me a boost (walking is one of the best deterrents of depression).  Perhaps, that one walk, gave me the motivation to stop the tears this morning and get out of bed, to make some coffee and to reach out to all of you with my blog. That one act of kindness by my husband to encourage and to support.

That one walk, the result of endless days of saying to my husband, I need more steps which set up a pattern in our lives where we walk and talk and support each other, holding the ladder on the days when the walls are greased and the fire hose is on and pointing down.

One walk, to make today a new day, with new possibilities, to be excited that my hand at the top of wall rolls got one inch closer to the wall, that on supermans my range of motion increased just a bit, that today I can flip my pyramid and contribute to the positive in this world instead of adding to the negative. The hate, the blame, the frustration. That I can choose to dwell on those things that are positive in my life instead of obsessing about the negative. That I can view this insane illness as an opportunity to grow, become even stronger, even more sure and sound in myself, my relationships and my purpose in life. That I can choose the road that leads me to new opportunities, new discoveries and most important a deeper love and understanding of me so that I take full responsibility for my life instead of blaming others, hating because I am not willing to work on myself (which is all hate is) and make each day filled with love, 

So, I am challenging all of you that read this blog today. To flip your pyramid, to add to the world today by increasing the positive. To get up and walk when you need a lift or feel yourself going down the road of complaining, blaming and hate. In just one instance today, walk away instead of engaging the all too popular path of negativity. I will reach one inch higher today, what are you going to do? How are you going to increase the positive in your world, and in the world of others?

Each act of positivity counts. Reach!

 

 

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#Stopabuse

#Stopabuse

Yes, I am headed in to cancer surgery tomorrow, yes, I should be 100% focused on myself, my health and my recovery. So why am I here writing a blog to all of you? Because it is time, right now to #stopabuse

I was just watching @goodmorningamerica and there was a story about how most of the biggest loser contestants gain back their weight over time as their metabolisms slow down and their bodies reset to their old weight. How the only way that they can possible continue to be "successful" is to continually do hours of abusive exercise, that leave them beaten up, with little or no time for their family and possibly with serious injury.

Haven't we had enough? 

Isn't it pathetic that I am writing this blog before my own breast cancer surgery? That I felt the need, to write this, that I needed to shout this out on my way in to an operating room??? That everyone is not eating their number already. That the simple, successful solution of a Life in Synergy is not implemented in every life, in every school, in every obesity clinic? That the health expert on GMA was saying that the only solution for these people is drugs, or surgery? Listen, those things may help in small doses, but unless people learn to love themselves instead of getting beaten up, Instead of starving instead of being abused, this cycle will NEVER stop!

You may not know this, but when the biggest loser began, the Dr. that was responsible for the diet on the show was a client of mine. A client that I asked to leave because we fundamentally had different beliefs. A Life in Synergy was great for him. He succeeded by listening to me and eating his number, getting his steps in and by doing 2 or 3 smart SFM workouts a week but fundamentally he thought his obese clients were different than him. That they needed to workout 7 days a week, that they needed a "diet" #stopabuse

Are you kidding me! Aren't we sick of seeing trainers yelling at people on tv to get them "fit" (which these recent studies show is a myth)? Aren't we sick of watching people be beaten up as a form of entertainment? Aren't we sick of watching anyone be considered different?

I wrote this, an easy to read book, Nutritional Alignment to literally set people free. To help them to discover themselves, to learn how to eat instead of starve, to learn how to enjoy all of life instead of thinking that they are less, or inadequate or deserving of abuse. #stopabuse

Why am I so passionate about this?

You know, I was born in to an abusive family. #stopabuse A family that did not care about me, a family that did not see anything wrong with abusing a child. Imagine my surprise, in my early 20's (way back in the 80's), as I found myself in the health and fitness industry, (an industry I joined to help people) realizing that everything I was learning to teach my clients was just another form of abuse. That I was learning to literally starve people and beat them up with workouts that had little or no thought behind them, that I was continuing a pattern.

NO, NO, NO!!! #stopabuse

I knew 30 years ago that this was wrong. So, after a lifetime of global study, getting awards for my fitness method, SFM, after a lifetime of changing countless lives,  help me to show the world a better way, a way to happiness! Learning to #eatyournumber is not abuse, it is amazing! It does not beat your metabolism in to a complete shutdown.  

In fact as you train your brain with SFM to communicate to all of your muscles, not just your dominant ones you actually increase your metabolism! Yes, as you lose weight. My metabolism is stronger now at 50+ then it was in my 20's when I was beating myself up with the ridiculous workouts that do not work, will never work and will beat you up until you give up! This is not a solution, this is not okay, this is not adding to the world, to you or to me. #stopabuse

So as I take a leave to focus 100% on my own health I am asking you to support yours. Please tell everyone you know about Nutritional Alignment please share it with your friends, your family, your coworkers. Do it to #stopabuse do it to set people free, do it to set yourself free, do it because only through science, understanding, compassion for ourselves and others can we truly #stopabuse.

Helena - out (drops mic)

Full disclosure - this email was edited by a calm voice, not my own :-) to make it more instructive and less, well volatile and secondly when I originally wrote drops mic, I spelled it mike because we all know that I am truly a geeky scientist haha.

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Living a Life in Synergy ALL the Time

Living a Life in Synergy ALL the Time

So, there I was two weeks ago lying on the gurney, (the picture of me is the selfie I took right before in my hospital gown chic) surrounded by very pleasant and competent people as they stuck a huge needle in to the side of my breast to biopsy an abnormality that had just shown on my mammogram.

"You are seriously the most calm person ever, you should teach meditation." said the nurse. "I own Life in Synergy." was my reply. "Oh, I go there, said my Dr."

Seriously, it was almost like being in a bad movie. Of course the nurse said, "What's that?" and throughout my biopsy I discussed the wheel. What it means to bring your body and muscles in to balance, eat your # and to truly understand your mental and emotional pattern so that you can be in control of your life instead of your life controlling you.

Being a classic Commuter, (book a coaching session and read Nutritional Alignment if you do not know your personality type :-) my instinct or maybe I should say my old pattern, was to react. To just jump in with emotion without taking the beat to relax, be calm and move forward with purpose that will help my life instead of leaving me in the pattern of regret, I have never been so grateful for the work that I have done on my own wheel.

The old Helena, the one that was plagued with thunder thighs, fluctuating weight and back pain would have been an absolute mess. Angry and emotional without purpose. The kind of emotions that do not offer release but a deeper dive in to the ditch that can overwhelm us and run our lives.

As I lay (or is it lie, I can never get this straight) there, I knew that just like all of the other problems that have arisen in my life, that this one, a diagnosis of breast cancer is not me, it does not define me, it is not more important than me, who I am, my personal identity. As I look at this, with a sense of calm that is even surprising me, I keep turning back to the work on my own wheel to get me through. There is so much power in just working your wheel!

Throughout this process, my husband and I have gone on endless walks, using the fresh air to talk this through, yes, some of those walks have lead straight to our local bar for a cocktail or two, but they have all been supportive and helpful. Instead of reinforcing my fear, they have helped me to literally walk forward through this. And yes, last night I may have been eating pop tarts, I know not the healthiest option but by eating them in my # I woke up my regular 123.5 this morning and we ALL know the mental boost that getting on the scale and seeing a number that you love can bring. Trust me, there are plenty of "healthy" meals in there but the serotonin boost that I received from eating sugar last night helped my mental state, literally, and it not effecting the powerful numbers on the scale this morning keep me on a steady course instead of the roller coaster highs, and lows that commuters are famous for. Sugar with purpose!!!!!

Having taught class on Monday, that I fully participated in haha and then yesterday as well, were let's be honest, I taught and talked cause damn this SFM is HARD :-) my abs today have that satisfied worked out feeling and EVERY day that I am able to look down and see thighs that I LOVE, where there used be a set that I truly loathed, well that is a win that we can all understand. 

Of course this leads me to be able to make critical self first decisions in my life. (Decisions that are self first are the ones that help and support you and have no ill side effect on those around you. Having a true Life in Synergy has taught me that there is a HUGE difference between self first and selfish but that is a blog for another day :-) Mine is that I am going to step away from Life in Synergy, the studio, for a few months, to have some surgery, and some therapy and get my body back to it super energetic healthy self. My pyramid is flipped upright and in its proper upright position and supported with a strong base! (Again, if you are unclear about this part of the wheel, book coaching with Kelly or Regina and read the book :-) It will change how you eat and how you handle your life.)

The upside is that the studio is poised to truly surge forward as Regina (a thinker), Emily (a decorator) and Kelly (a commuter) step in take over! As we sat around discussing their plans for the next few months, fun contests that they want to run, instagram accounts that they are excited to post on and new teachers and trainers they are excited to train it occurred to me that their growth could really not have happened if all of this did not. This opens the door for their creativity, their passion and their drive to shine without me casting a shadow over it. And of course, I know that they will be absolutely embraced and supported by all of you! I have received the best emails, with offers to help out at the studio in any way, to man the desk, help the staff, post on social media and even a client who offered to don the pink leg warmers and teach class (though I am not sure that we are all ready for HIS version of class haha)

I am so excited for this next part of my own journey as well as yours. Know that I love you all! See you in a few :-) Please excuse all grammatical errors, typos and misspellings, this is part of my journey that where I continue to grow. xoxoxoxo

 

 

 

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The Mind Body Connection and Science

For over 30 years I have been studying, researching and refining what I teach. Before I opened Life in Synergy I spent decades being a human guinea pig as I tried different forms of movement and exercise. It did not matter which type of movement I was doing it all came down to learn this move, just do it or some other mindless platitude. None of this ever deepened my peace with myself. It taught me skills but not me. No matter how much I tried, lost weight or excelled, my shape did not change, my thighs were still huge, my back still hurt and at the end of the day I was working really hard and not really loving myself any more.

This is why I developed the science of Macro-muscle Synergy®. This science looks directly at the mind body connection between your brain and your muscles. Instead of teaching you a move, we are going to look at where your brain has good communication and where it is lacking so that we can work to correct these imbalances with mindfulness and exercise. Teaching you to fully occupy yourself, your body and be in control of your shape, your life and your destiny. Your mind body connection is so powerful and once you learn to use it to your advantage it will help you create the body you have always dreamed of. The one that you can love! I mean this. It is through this science that I completely reshaped my thighs. There is so much power in this. Not only do I love how they look, (I can be having a terrible day, flip my hair over to dry it, spot my changed thighs and I feel real relief) but also, by using science to change my shape I learned that I can be in control of my life, that I can create the life that I love just like I created a body that I love. For those of you that don't know me, I was not born with great genetics, my family is typically overweight or obese, I used to have thunder thighs, not to mention chronic back pain and I used to work really, really hard for no results. So stop the hard work and put science to work for you! If you have just been coming to class, treat yourself to a personal training session and discover your own Macro-muscle Synergy and learn to be in charge of peace with yourself. To love yourself first through the power of science and finally create the body and the life that you dream of!

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Changing your body - Brain First!

Changing your body - Brain First!

The most important piece of exercise and health equipment you can ever have is free of charge and travels with you in every moment of your life. Your brain! This is the master computer that is teaching your body how to live, feel and react. So..... what are you doing with your supercomputer? Are you programming it with health or letting it just run wild, randomly generating information without direction or purpose? You are probably too young to remember the 80's movie War Games, a classic :-) but a supercomputer gets out of control and begins to start WWIII. Are you creating peace or war within your body with your supercomputer??? What kind of programming are you doing? Do you begin each day with purpose, with a smile, with a pleasant thought? Or are you off to the race of negativity,comparing your life to the falsities on social media, magazines and tv??

This morning, I pulled up my social media feed, just random useless stuff, but I could literally feel myself getting slightly depressed looking at it, what was I doing? Programming my day with depression and inadequacy? NO WAY!!! How often are you programming your brain with these kinds of negative thoughts? Comparing yourself to others instead of reveling in the joy and amazement that is you, your life, your body and your existence?? I know that life can be a struggle, I know that stress, anxiety and fear can seem like much easier programs to use. But  please realize that you do have other programs readily available to use.  Spend just 5 minutes today consciously using the program for happiness and peace. I know that sounds simple but if you really focus right now.... are you having happy thoughts or are you already back to anxiety, worry and frustration?? Okay maybe lets run that program for just 2 minutes... are you ready?

Get out your phone so that you can look at the time. Slow your breathing down taking longer and steady breathes in and out. For the next 2 minutes only think love thoughts, it does not matter what you love. Here are some of my examples: I love my husband, I love my coffee, I love that my thighs are lean now, I love that I get to write this blog, it does not matter..... GO! 

Wow, two minutes felt so long? How about for you? Did you make the whole time? How quickly did your programmed brain want to interject a negative program, an irritated program? Note how long you could make it and then add a little each day until you can get to a full 5 minutes! Do you feel how much your body changed in those few moments? Your brain is now more oxidized and relaxed and worked out in a whole new way! Congratulations!!!!! 

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Filling your life with joy

Filling your life with joy

This is my new coffee cup. No, it is not a mug, but a proper bone china cup that requires hand washing and cannot go in to the microwave. I know, that seems a little high maintenance, and it only holds a little over 8 ounces of coffee, not a lot for a coffee addict like me who is used to a 12 or 14 ounce mug...... I Love It!

I love the way the china feels in my hand, how thin the lip is, the pretty but simple patterning, the one happy bird on a vine. It is a perfect cup for me. For me being the operative word in the sentence. Which of course started me thinking about how often we ask others.... what do you eat, where do you go out to eat, what are you wearing, were did you get that....?? Like this cup, a true Life in Synergy is filled with little moments, objects, meals, steps, smiles and tears that you are in love with. It is the cumulative effect not the grand gestures that really add up. Yes, when you spot someone else doing something or eating or owning something that appeals to you, it is appropriate to inquire and search out your very own dreams, loves and passions. But, too often we get caught up in doing or owning or having something merely because it is popular not because it feeds us emotionally. Trust your loves, your ideas and your passions. Each one matters, each one is important and each one lays down a paving stone on your own road to a Life in Synergy! 

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Steps on the Path to a Life in Synergy

Steps on the Path to a Life in Synergy

I love this image, the warn cobblestone path to success. The rocks polished over time as countless steps have been taken over them and worn down the rough spots. This is the path to a Life in Synergy as you continue to work each aspect of the wheel. Every time you commit to eating your number, working on your weak muscles and stretching your tight ones to bring your muscles in to Synergy, walk your steps and drink your water you are easing the way to your success, your happiness and peace and love for yourself and your body.

It is in the repetition that we wear away the rough spots, that the challenges and obstacles that used to block our path become mere bumps on the road and that everything evens out and becomes a smooth path.

But notice that there still are irregularities, you like the path are not a monotone freshly paved blank road. You have bumps and crevices and interesting unique aspect to you. These are to be embraced not to be ashamed of. They are the aspects of you that make you you. So, on your road to your Life in Synergy, embrace your rough spots, enjoy them and then continue to wear them away with every single step!

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Stop Arguing with Your Body

Stop Arguing with Your Body

How many times a day do you put yourself down, do you look in the mirror or down at your body and say, "I hate....." how many times a day do you compare yourself to someone else walking down the street and then value yourself against them? 

It is time to stop the argument, to stop criticizing and take the time to learn to communicate with your body, with yourself. There is no one else here in your head. I know, you say you hear me  :-) but that is just a recording that YOU MADE to help you stay on track. Only you can choose to stop hating yourself and begin to love and care for you instead. The first step in any relationship is to understand the language of the person you are talking to, in this case your body.

For just a moment, I want you to think about your body as being separate from yourself. A new person in your life. How would you approach a stranger that you really wanted to meet and that you were hoping would really like even love you?? Would you start by screaming at them? Abusing them? Or would you find out about them, their interests, their unique aspects and use that knowledge to better understand them?

This is the only way to develop a great long term relationship with yourself. You have to be patient, you have to be understanding, you have to be interested. The steps to understanding are all laid out in the wheel, all you have to do is follow them. To look and see which part of the wheel you are not following and apply yourself to the learning and doing. Each time you do you are teaching yourself that you matter, that you are interesting and that you are the most important person in your life. Do it! You are worth it!

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The Struggle

Sunday afternoon, I lied or is it lay, oh whatever, I took a nap. In general, a lovely Sunday afternoon activity. As I lay there, I felt my neck become uncomfortable. There are two pillows on my bed and each one has a different feel and support. This allows me to switch from pillow to pillow to customize my sleeping experience. Wow, that sounded like a pillow store ad, didn't it :-) In any case, during my nap I realized that I had chosen incorrectly. My neck was a little uncomfortable, thus I was not napping but instead I was thinking that this pillow was just not going to do the trick. Now, mind you, the other pillow was a mere foot from me. Ready to jump in and do all of its magic in aiding my sleep, but, for what felt like an eternity. I sat there (or rather lay or lie) and contemplated how much better the other pillow would be. The other pillow was right there! I did not have to go and buy it, I did not really even need to leave the bed but the decision to take action really felt like an effort. This lead me to think about how often we do this when contemplating instead of acting in our own Life in Synergy.  I know that I have had many days when I waste minutes or even hours thinking about going for a walk instead of just taking the first step. Or that glass of water stays on the counter without being consumed or I stop entering my food throughout the day.

Every aspect of living a Life in Synergy is really like that pillow. It is right there within reach. It is easy, it is attainable, it is all doable. All you have to do is stop thinking about it and reach for it. Stop the endless contemplation and take the first step and you will be able to rest in comfort and happiness.  Glad to say, I eventually switched pillows and proceeded to 20 minutes of bliss. Reaching for your next step in the Life in Synergy wheel can and will do the same for you. Just stop thinking about it and make the switch :-)

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Get Some Rest!

Get Some Rest!

Did you know that one of the best ways to reach your weight loss goals happens at night. The best way to insure your success is to consistently get a good nights sleep. That snack that you are craving may not be because you are hungry but because you are tired. Calories are your form of energy, so if you are overtired and lacking energy your body will send out a signal to feed it. Recognize if you are really hungry or just in the need of some extra shut eye!

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Awesome Avocado!

Awesome Avocado!

Avocados are one of my favorite foods! One of natures best source of fiber (the workout for your insides) packed with vitamin c and heart healthy fats this is truly one of the best! Not to mention the yumminess! Trying using avocado instead of mayo on a sandwich next time or add them to your favorite salad, really, it will rock your world :)  The fiber in them will help you to feel full more quickly and the nutrients (over 20) will help the rest of you feel great. Because of their higher fat content their caloric value is higher thatn most fruits, the average Avocado has about 250 calories.

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